XHIzilwanyana zasekhaya ngabahlobo bethu abakhulu
Izilwanyana zasekhaya ziyinxalenye yobomi bethu bemihla ngemihla kunye neentsapho. Ayigcini nje ngokusigcina sinxulumana kodwa ikwabonelela ngenkxaso yeemvakalelo neyomzimba. Isibakala sokuba abantu abaninzi ngakumbi nangakumbi bafuna ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya yonke imihla bubungqina boku.
Iziseko zothando lwabantwana ngezilwanyana zibekwe kwasebusaneni; Kubaluleke kakhulu ekukhuliseni abantu abazithembayo, abanovelwano, abomeleleyo nabasempilweni.
Ziyasinceda ukuba sisuke kwiimvakalelo ezingakhiyo
Ukucinga ngomhlobo osenyongweni emva kokwehlelwa yinto embi kunokukunceda uzive ubhetele. Ngokunjalo, kuye kwacetyiswa ukuba ukucinga ngesilwanyana sakho sasekhaya kunempembelelo efanayo. Kuphononongo lwabanini bezilwanyana ezifuywayo abangama-97, abathathi-nxaxheba baye bavezwa ngokungazi kumava angalunganga oluntu. Emva koko bacelwa ukuba babhale isincoko malunga nomhlobo wabo osenyongweni okanye isilwanyana sasekhaya, okanye bazobe imephu yekhampasi yabo yekholeji. Olu pho nonongo lubonise ukuba abathathi-nxaxheba ababhala malunga nesilwanyana sabo okanye umhlobo wabo osenyongweni abazange babonise iimvakalelo ezimbi kwaye babevuya ngokulinganayo, nangona emva kwamava angalunganga asekuhlaleni.
Basenokunceda ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokwaliwa
Ngokuchaseneyo nenkolelo eqhelekileyo, ukuba nesilwanyana akukwenzi ube sesichengeni sokwaliwa.
Ngapha koko, uphononongo lubonisa ukuba ukuba nesilwanyana sasekhaya kwasebuntwaneni kunokunciphisa umngcipheko wokwaliwa yizilwanyana kamva ebomini. Uphononongo lwabantu abadala abancinci lubonise ukuba abantu ababenesilwanyana ekhaya ngexesha lobusana babemalunga nama-50% amathuba okuba baphuhle ukusabela ngokwanelisayo kwizilwanyana. Ngokwale nto; Kunokuthiwa akukho nzakalo yokuba nesilwanyana kwintsapho enabantwana (ukuba akukho nto ikhoyo).
Bakhuthaza umthambo kunye nokuhlalisana
Uphononongo lubonisa ukuba abantu abanezilwanyana zasekhaya badla ngokwenza umthambo kunabanye abantu. Kwakhona kuye kwaphawulwa ukuba abanini bezilwanyana zasekhaya banentlalo ngakumbi kwaye banako ukoyisa iimeko ezinjengobulolo kunye nokuba likheswa ekuhlaleni. Oku kuyinyani kubantu bayo yonke iminyaka, kodwa kuye kwaphawulwa ukuba kuyinyani ngakumbi kubanini bezilwanyana zasekhaya abadala.
Zisenza sibe sempilweni
I-American Heart Association ichaze ukuba izilwanyana zisinceda sibe sempilweni. Ukuba nesilwanyana kuye kwaboniswa ukulawula uxinzelelo lwegazi, amanqanaba e-cholesterol ephantsi, kunye nokunciphisa umngcipheko wokuphuhlisa ukutyeba kunye nezifo zentliziyo. Uphononongo lubonise ukuba abanini beekati bangaphantsi kwe-40% amathuba okuba nesifo senhliziyo okanye isifo sohlangothi kunabanye abantu. Iingcali azikayazi ngokuthe ngqo "indlela" izilwanyana eziphucula ngayo impilo yethu, kodwa ziqinisekile ukuba ziyayenza.
Banceda ukuphucula ukuzithemba
Uphononongo olupapashwe kwi-Journal of Personality and Social Psychology ngo-2011 lubonise ukuba abanini bezilwanyana abanalo ukuzithemba okuphezulu kuphela, kodwa bazive beziva bekhululekile kwaye bagqithise ngakumbi kunabantu abangenazo izilwanyana. Isizathu soku sisenokuba izilwanyana zisenza sizive ngathi ziyasifuna okanye zisincamathele ngothando olungenasigwebo nolungenamiqathango.
Babeka ubomi bethu ngolungelelwano
Ukuhamba yonke imihla, ukwenza amaxesha okudlala, ukulungiselela ukutya, kunye nokundwendwela ugqirha wezilwanyana rhoqo… Le yimisebenzi embalwa ekufuneka yenziwe ngumnini-silwanyana sasekhaya onoxanduva. Ngale misebenzi, izilwanyana zasekhaya zisinceda sizise isiqhelo kunye nokuziphatha ebomini bethu. Le misebenzi yesiqhelo iba yimikhwa yethu emva kwexesha kwaye isenza ukuba sibe nemveliso kwaye siqeqesheke kuyo yonke into esiyenzayo.
Banciphisa uxinzelelo lwethu
Ukuba nenja njengeqabane kunciphisa amanqanaba anokulinganiswa oxinzelelo ebantwini, kwaye kukho uphando olubanzi lwezonyango ngalo mbandela. I-American Heart Association yenza uphando lwabantu abanoxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu. Iziphumo zabo: Kwagqitywa ukuba izigulane ezinezilwanyana ezifuywayo zazikwazi ukugcina uxinzelelo lwegazi luphantsi nanini na xa bafumana uxinzelelo kubo bonke ubomi babo, xa kuthelekiswa nalabo babengenazo izilwanyana. Uthando lwabo olungenamiqathango luba yinkqubo yenkxaso kuthi nanini na xa sinoxinzelelo.